How to think differently - in a given situation
Keeping alternatives ready
Mind power
INNOVATION

How to think differently - in a given situation

Every one says about "Positive approach".  You will ask about why no body speaks about how and where in certain circumstances the positive approach will come! Particularly the "positive approach" does not arise when you were blatantly over ruled, when you were   directly side stepped, when were shamelessly ignored, when you were brazenly disqualified and when you were audaciously suppressed.  You will feel injustice when you were denied some thing for which you were hoping, yearning and expecting as if it was rightfully belongs to YOU.  Where and how and why the positive approach can be applied - when everything was getting finished and closed!

That was the kind of situation where people will be divided into two different segments. One: Those who fight tooth-and-nail till the end - like a Football match and; Two: Those who maintain salience and leave the result to the luck.  The people who come under the classification of TWO are most dangerous and willingly suffer as victim of depression. The fighters - extroverts - rarely find themselves in depression as they have faced the situation head-on. And by which they had the opportunity to rip open the opposition and whatever they spoke in the public debate, that was cleaned their heart and mind and the mind is full of satisfaction that they have revolted against the decision.

On the other hand, the introverts - who left the results to the God, ware not in a position to accept the God to take the decision.  They start looking at the issue with one single eye, and with magnifying glasses.
Recently my boss was in depressed mood as the billings were reduced and order book was nil.  I talked to him for a while and came back to my seat and casually browsed the Internet for blogs and I saw this quotation:            
                        To those who have pushed me, thank you,
                        Without you, I wouldn't have fallen
                       
                        To those who have laughed at me, thank you
                        Without you, I wouldn't have cried

                        To those who just couldn't love me, thank you
                        Without you, I wouldn't have known real love

                        To those of you who hurt my feelings, thank you
                        Without you, I wouldn't have felt them

                        To those of you, who left me lonely, thank you
                        Without you, I wouldn't have discovered myself.

                        But, to those who thought I couldn't do it,
                        It is to you I thank the most because
                        Without you, I wouldn't have tried.

I took the print out and send it him. And he got it printed on a large sheet and fixed it on the side of his table.

Depression is nothing but self-pity. And the self-pity develops into suicidal tendencies or in some circumstances converts the person into Psychopath. The tendency of depression or the nature of depressed person is unpredictable. There are timings where he will be out of depression but totally under the control of depression.  In a way, he will gain the strength through the depression over a time by consoling himself and compromising to the situation and accepting the mind and feelings.  The self-pity then takes the turn of the revenge. If not suicide!  Then that situation is dangerous for the society. He will conclude and reason that he has been selected and elected to bat for all the depressed people in the world, that his actions will have direct impact on the people who were responsible for his depression.  And surprisingly for him it was not depression at that time but a cause for which he has to stand and act.

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Keeping alternatives ready

Why all the religions world over - Hindu, Christianity, Islam and Sikhism - talked about the GOD,  a power which is beyond human, above human and which is capable of controlling the humanity?  Why these religions in their own separate ways and means propagate that there some thing above us and one has to turn to him when in distress? It's nothing but to discourage the man from depression. 

When you were swimming in a high and flooded river, when the shore was not in sight, when there was nothing around except the powerful current taking you in circles in swirling chilly waters, you will hope for some thing to hang-on, some thing to take you to the shore, some thing which can give you the assurance that your life is safe - a light on distance shore, a sound of s motor boat, a large wooden plank near by you or at least the sudden decline in the speed of current. 

You will try many alternatives, looking for number of rescue operations and unless you are being pulled down inside the waters - your hopes are alive and you continue to swim. Compare this situation   with yours!  You will agree that you are in a better position than that person in the middle of the river. You have more alternatives, and you need not search for some thing as fast as the man in the river.  You have time, you have resources unknown to you, you are yet to talk to your relatives, your age is your advantage, your responsibilities are not much, and you have more opportunities other than this.

Mind you one thing that the man is able to swim continuously; may be he is being carried away by the current or may be he is swimming along with the current - the point is that he is afloat and alive and literally kicking!

Visualize his mind at that juncture -for a change. 

Really if you look at the situation in a different way.. 

Cool is the catch word.  Cool - irrespective of whether you are in total cold, sizzling waters - never mind - but keep your mind and body cool.

Imagination is the best alternative.  Visualization is the via media and creativity is the life-saver.  Just forget the issue for a while.  Forget it!  How to? You may ask!

Permit me to talk about sex here.  Do you have the symptom of premature ejaculation or something equal to that?  Never approach a doctor.  Sexual arousal - the resultant of which is creation of sperm - is nothing but a sweating like thing.  You run in the hot sun for ten meters and you will start sweating.  Is it the indication of heart attack? You stop a while and rest and no sweating will be there.  In the symptom which I mentioned above - when the arousal is beginning, start thinking about some thing totally different, preferably your boss, office, your sales, the creditors and next month sales meeting.  Continue like this for a while - you have won the match!

When the God has given you everything - except the solution to a particular issue that shows you have been asked to find the solution to yourself.  Did you ever enquired any one before you participate in that event or contest or examination or race or challenge which has brought you the present depression? Nope! That was your own decision.  Yep! Then why not take the decision to come out of it.

You stop your attention from negative "what if" questions.  The more you try and shift your line of thoughts, the faster your depression will be replaced by confidence. Obviously it is to think about what makes you feel good and happy rather than thinking about the matters which creates depression.

Most dangerous aspect in depressed situation is that we feel elevated and recognized by the people who start showing the pity on us.  Frankly there are many in around us who are ready to show pity on us.  Unfortunately we welcome them in that situation. Never allow them, never encourage them and never welcome them and never listen to them - provided you want your life back!

Once you start feeling better, surprisingly the people around you start feeling better. They start coming near to you, you can see glow in their eyes and they are ready to support you and encourage you.  Depend on your family is the right advise at this situation.  There is no substitute for the family when your morale is too low and when it is picking up again. You need them. 

When the improvement is in place, you will start feeling better, motivation starts, solutions are at sight and you start thinking in a different direction. When your mind is on even keel you are some what empowered and you start taking appropriate action to get yourself out of the messy situation.

You will be looking for some thing to solve the situation. You will find something and you concentrate on that - it's like attraction. When you think about what you desire and feel good about it, you attract it to you in ways that cannot be explained as a result of your direct action.

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Mind power

Mind is such which can think horrible things which you can not speak outside. Mind is such which visualizes situations which were yet to be reported as happened. Mind is such which is like our backyard garden - if you sow the flower seeds, it will grow flowers and if you do not care to maintain it, it will become a jungle. Mind is such, which acts and reacts with terrible speed from one issue to another and travel from one country to another in a fraction of second.

Instead of asking you to stay positive - I would like to say "Be imaginative and be creative. The thing is that let us not put all our eggs in one basket! Keep alternatives is the key word.  In the present circumstances in the present Internet age, in the present terrorist bombings and Tsunami incidents - Keep alternatives and keep changing the alternatives!

When I was not having job, when my family was waiting for me to bring money for running the house, I was sitting at an Internet Café looking after the customers - without payment! I want to keep my mind occupied, I want to keep myself alive and I want to keep myself in a way that I can thing else other than job. At that time a person has come to me to ask for a write on an important issue. I asked him to come back in the evening after 8.00. He was there at that time. The issue was a marketing tie up with a reputed company - product was automobile filters - He was so much happy that the impact of this tie would enhance the company's financial position to a comfortable level.  He wanted me to analyze the offer and the circumstances and his views and prepare a report for board meeting to be held next day.  I just rip-open the total contract and explained that after 3 years his company would be forced to sell it to the other party and explained the things.  He asked me to include everything.  I did that. Next day at 4 in the evening he came back and took me to the meeting.  I went there without any special dress. Two of the directors were laughing at me.  The other director stopped them and warned that report what I gave them to be kept in a specific file as they may have to read it after 2 years.

It was like a wakeup call! I was surprised that I still have the ability and knack to analyze the things.  I am not a dead wood!  Next week I got the job.

"Change" is the important word we have to keep in our mind.  Depression comes to the people who are not adept to the change, not ready for the change, not anticipating the change and not aware of the change. In this 21st century - change is inevitable.  Nothing is permanent - innovation is key word creativity is the catch word - change is the result of both.  Obviously change brings the changed circumstances and changed mentality and changed environment.   Don't blame some one else if you are not ready for the change. 

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INNOVATION

Those who do not welcome innovation they are living dead. Those who do not have creativity they need to look for a job in the nearest Federal Government office. Innovation is positive approach and not knowing the innovation is the first step towards negative approach.  These people do not want any change; they want the same bus, same taxi, same atmosphere, same office, same work flow and same responsibilities but not the same salary.  IBM said that we are surrounded by endless possibilities and inspiration. Inspiration is the basic thing which is required for a man to survive.  Inspiration to meet the challenges, to face the change, to accept the change and to innovate and live innovatively in the middle of the problems and issues and complications!

Innovation and inspiration can bring miracles in your life, change the total picture of the situation. 

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